My Thoughts on Submission (by nysia)
I heard a conversation one day that really made me think. It was about submission. The Master asked the girl why he said the word please to her. The answer was when the Master said please it was the girl’s decision to choose whether she obeys his request. Simply put, she chooses submission to the Master or not. It made me think because I did not look at it that way when the one who had owned me said please to me. To me it was Him just asking me to do something but it goes much deeper than that.
When the person who owns me asks me to do a certain thing and says please, it is him giving me the choice if I am going to do it or not do it. When I say yes my Master I am really telling him I submit to your will my Master. When I say no my Master I am telling him that I refuse to submit to him.
Another part of the conversation made me think also. The Master asked three specific questions of the girl. The first one was what about your slavery is what fulfills me as a Master? and she said she did not know. Then He chose a different approach to find the answer that he sought of her. The Master asked two more questions of the girl. The first one was how many times have I compelled you to choose to submit to me and the second one was how many times have I put you in a place to make that choice.
The girl answered the first question by stating you haven’t compelled me… I’ve chosen to submit to you because I want to. The answer to the second question that the Master wanted was constantly. So then the Master asked the answer to the question is which the answer to that was that you CHOOSE to SUBMIT to ME. That answer is just 6 little words but those 6 little words have a lot of meaning to them.
Submission is a choice. It is not something that can be forced by anyone. Submission is given freely, control is forced. Just like it is a choice for someone to get out of bed each morning. They choose to get up and face the day and go about their life. It is not something they have to do but something they choose to do, that they want to do. Submission is like that to me. When I submit to the one who is owning me I am making a conscious choice to do that, to say yes to him and please him, make him proud and to reap the benefits and rewards because of that choice. It is because I want to and nothing he says or does can make submit, I have to have the desire to do so.
Why do I desire and chose to submit? I do so because in submitting to him I please him; in pleasing the owner I please myself. My owner will bring out the deepest submission in me and will command my heart totally through love. I will chose to submit to Him because I know He wants what is best for me, even when I don’t see it. He will know my fears, dreams and secrets and push me to be the woman he knows I can be.
Choosing to submit is a freedom for me. It is the freedom to be who I am meant to be. It is also the freedom of letting go and knowing my owner is there to catch me if I stumble or falter. The freedom of knowing he will push me to be the best I can be as a person, not just as his submissive and to learn and grow from each experience.
To submit I am giving over my will, my heart, my body and soul to him. It takes great strength for me or any sub/slave to do this because I am offering myself to the direction or will of another person. I am submitting out of strength, love and total trust in him. It is also the ultimate struggle to let go and bring down the walls that has taken years to put into place. To bring them down and allow someone to come in and show me the woman I have always been but never could see takes great strength for me to do. It leaves me vulnerable but I also have the knowledge that I have someone who will cherish and treasure my heart and protect it. That person will be my loving Master.